He flirts with you because he likes the attention you give him and the ego boost he gets from figuring you like him. He might even like you. But he’s made clear he has a girlfriend so he is off the hook to pursue you. It’s a totally dick-ish move. He can openly flirt and otherwise act however one might if he DID want to pursue you, but without any risk to his ego. If you aren’t interested back, he can let you assume it’s all just fun — he already has a girlfriend. But if you give any indication that you like him, he can feel secure knowing that if his girlfriend dumps him or if he gets up the balls to dump her, he likely has you waiting in the wings for him. He gets the power. You develop feelings for him and you are in a position of waiting for him to make some move. I’d stop riding the bus with him and create some physical and emotional distance to save yourself the trauma and drama of really falling for someone who isn’t available to you.
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